[Sorry about this MAJORLY late posting…a combination of work and lack of inspiration contributed to the delay!]
If you missed the subtext in a few of the previous entries, equality is a prerequisite to any mutually beneficial and successful relationship.
I’m talking about macro-equality here. Certainly each of you can be experts in a particular area. Indeed, my previous post on Challenging certainly advocates that kind of situation. What I advocate in this instance is a more global sense of equality permeating the relationship. Each of you should feel that the other is [insert verb here] just as much as you are. Sacrificing, challenging, cooking, cleaning, working, paying, etc. etc. etc.
Equality can also be obtained through other methods:
- Equality by exchange
- I may forgo some of my cleaning duties in exchange for cooking more frequently.
- Equality by relative means
- If I earn considerable more than someone I’m dating, I may choose to measure equality using our relative means to pay for a date
- Equality by circumstance
- Maybe my partner’s parents passed away…I’ll pick up more duties around the house to give them time to grieve and reflect
In short, there are many ways to balance things on the micro level. What’s important is to gauge the relative equality at a macro level when evaluating the health of your relationship.